He could have been bi but I never knew of any rumors, and hanging around with a group of mostly straight chicks and gay guys, you'd think I would have if he did swing that way. Being a youth nowadays is obviosuly very different! %0D %0D One guy in particular who I will forever have fond memories of - I was good friends with his sister (who also would come along)- he was a ladies man for sure but loved attention in all it's forms. I have lol'd all the way through this thread! In college I went to a particular gaybar at least once a month for three years with my straight friends. And straight guys going frequently to gay bars just with other "straight" guys also seems a bit odd. %0D %0D If I made it a habit of JUST going to straight and lesbian bars, well, that might be a bit weird. I'm gay and go to straight and even lesbian bars with friends sometimes even though there's presumably nothing "there" for me. Also, sometimes you just want to have fun with good dancing and music and push your boundaries a little.%0D %0D Sure, all of the above could just be a convenient excuse for some curiosity and experimentation, or a long road for coming out, but I don't see anything weird about it. Who knows how much success straight guys really get in gay bars though. Sometimes they say they can approach women much easier in gay bars than in straight bars (there's less tension and expectation they're both approaching each other as "outsiders" or whatever), whereas in straight bars women are more on their guard and other straight guys can compete to pull alpha male bullshit on each other. Yes, I've known several straight guys who go to gay bars - usually because they're with a mixed group (women and gay men), and they don't think it's a big deal. Ego, respite, curiosity, and even financial reasons.%0D %0D by Anonymous THey're typically college students, or guys down on their luck, or in one case, I knew a nice guy that turned out to be temporarily homeless.%0D %0D So there are all sorts of reasons for straight guys to go to gay bars. I've had more than one say "You are so lucky you don't have to deal with those fucking bitches just to get laid".%0D %0D A couple of other straight guys fall into the "I'm so poor I can't afford to buy drinks, so I'll head to a gay bar, flirt, and let the guys buy me drinks". They hate dealing with them as people, they just want their pussies. they hate women, but they're sexually turned on by them. And no, none of them were even bi.)%0D %0D A couple of the straight guys I've met in bars fall into the 'misogynist' camp. The guys go sometimes because they like the attention they get, or in some cases, because the few straight girls there have let their guard down, and they can pick them up easier.%0D %0D (I used to go with a straight female friend of mine all the time, and I swear, she got picked up more often than I did. The girls like to go there where they don't get constantly hit on, and sometimes take their boyfriends with them.
And all of them have been to gay bars before.